Something just like this (a blog without #TeamDuke in the title …….. well……..)

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“Be happy for this moment. This moment is your life.” – Omar Khayyam

“Every day we have plenty of opportunities to get angry, stressed or offended. But what you’re doing when you indulge these negative emotions is giving something outside yourself power over your happiness. You can choose to not let little things upset you.” – Joel Osteen

“The secret of health for both mind and body is not to mourn for the past, worry about the future, or anticipate troubles, but to live in the present moment wisely and earnestly.” – Buddha

3 quotes. 3 quotes! And the blog hasn’t even got wings, let alone started to fly. Wait!!! Sorry!!!! That’s a previous time. Let’s face it, those wings flew some time ago whilst I continue to look up at the world with delight – and, sometimes, concern – rather than down and oblivious.

So, come and sit whilst I navigate you along another beautiful path in the garden of #TeamDuke. Have I been drinking? Noooooo. I’m just a tad philosophical as I work out where this path is taking me for the blog. As ever, I start with an idea and then ramble on from there.

Following the last blog – #TeamDuke raise a glass and toast routine – I’ve been doing more thinking. I know, I do a lot of thinking, particularly over the last couple of years. I guess I’ve gone through a cycle, starting with ‘where am I?’, then ‘do I want to be here?’, moving to ‘how did I get here?’ and ‘what am I going to do?’. Thankfully, this has been followed by ‘how do I move forward?’, then ‘what do I need to do next?’, and getting to ‘how good is this?’.

And that’s just where things feel they are – how good is this? For me, for #TeamDuke, and for #TeamRingo.

It’s a funny old world. Rightly or wrongly – I think the former – I regularly read the news. Or, at least, I read the news that is published. Of course, we are not told everything. But, then, what is everything? The conspiracy theorists would tell us that our minds are being manipulated. I guess there is an element of truth in that. However, if you are to believe he conspiracy theorists, are our minds being manipulated by them? Think about it.

I remember someone I used to be close to and whose opinion I respected (no name needed) telling me she didn’t read the news anymore because she didn’t need to know what was happening in the world and that it shaped peoples’ minds. So, that being the case, what did she do? My belief, now, is that her mind was filled with the warped views and opinions of others (or, actually, other!) and, in essence, not have a mind of her own. So, therefore, became the kind of person she suggested that the news was manipulating the masses to be. Which is the most dangerous? My view, they are equally so. Of course, the news is read by millions. However, one person can bring real problems with their distorted views on family life and life in general.

It is only now that I feel at sufficient enough peace to be able to analyse such things. I hope you don’t mind me sharing this in my blog.

It’s been a funny old week. Poor old Ringo developed a bit of a worrying cough. I moved his cigarettes (JOKE!). I didn’t really move them (JOKE!!). We weren’t sure what the problem was but, so that I could keep any eye on him, I let Ringo sleep with me. Now, if someone had told me a year ago that I’d be sleeping with a dog, I’d have thought – mmmmmmm, life moves on and needs must. However, a 4 legged dog? Is she from Castleford? (JOKE!!!). (For any reader not local to West Yorkshire, that’s a local rugby league reference).

So, yes, sharing a bed with Ringo. Now, when he was not well, that was all good. However, clearly, he now sees this as the norm so, at some point of the night, into my room he trots and he dumps himself on my bed. Don’t tell anyone but it’s quite nice to have him there. For one, he doesn’t have a go at me for snoring.

It’s been a funny old month. It started with going to see Jeff Lynne’s ELO in concert. ELO have been my favourite band since they released Out Of The Blue in the 70’s. I was lucky enough to see them last year. I knew they were playing Hull this year but, due to circumstances beyond my control, I didn’t have the money to get a ticket. So, I’m sure you can imagine my surprise and emotional delight when Audrey announced she had bought tickets and booked a hotel. Stunning. What a woman! (Have you noticed that I’m obsessed with apostrophes. I’m also obsessed with brackets!)!)!)!)!)

Last Saturday was a funny old day (have you noticed I’m obsessed with ‘it’s a funny old …….!!!!!!!)))). A quiet night out (early evening) was arranged for me, Audrey and the awesome Steve and Susan Ramsden. Have I told you what incredible people they are and how they were there for #TeamDuke in our darkest times? Well, they were and I will always be truly grateful for their friendship. You couldn’t meet 2 nicer people (and I include me in that 🤢).

So, picture the scene – 4 ‘mature’ adults, sitting in a bar enjoying 2 for the price of 1 cocktails when we were told that the deal finished in 20 minutes. The picture is below. I love life. I love nights out like that with Audrey, Steve, and Susan. And it was amusing to see Steve being coaxed into a taxi rather than having that ‘one last beer’.

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It’s funny, because, as I have reflected on the blog and read back on some of the previous blogs, if I could have decided where I want my life to be and how I want #TeamDuke to be, I’d have to say it would be something just like this. It’s not filled with financial wealth (quite the opposite!), but it is filled with love, fun, unity, and gratitude. I can’t remember the last time all of those boxes were ticked. It’s filled with honesty, openness, hope, and a willingness to listen to each other about anything and everything. I can’t remember that for a long time. Our house is a home, we are a family (be that #TeamDuke, the Dukes, the Wallers, the Ashbys, and then the friends and so on), and we truly believe in each other and are always there for each other. I don’t need to add any more.

How did we get here? Please read the previous blogs to get an idea. But in addition, we had you the reader, we had each other, and we believed. And through that, we are living and loving a life something just like this.

I hope you enjoyed this latest blog. It would be great if you could spread the word. My dream for the View From The Ground blogs is that they give hope to others. I am nothing special – loud agreement there from many – but who and what I have in my life now is. Honesty, love, and belief.

Have a great day.

 

Jon

#TeamDuke raise a glass and toast routine

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“Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person.” – Naveen Jain

Routine – “a sequence of actions regularly followed.”

Toast – “a call to a gathering of people to raise their glasses and drink together in honour of a person or thing, or an instance of drinking in this way.” However I prefer – “sliced bread browned on both sides by exposure to radiant heat, such as a grill or fire.”

Så velkommen til mine observationer fra Base Ground, or as I am better saying, so welcome to my observations from Base Ground. I thought I’d break with routine and try a bit of Danish. If I’ve got it wrong, blame Google Translate.

Now, that’s an interesting concept, breaking with routine when the whole purpose of this blog is to raise a glass and toast routine.

Well, now there’s a thought and, as well trodden readers will know, I do like to examine thoughts.

It’s been a while since the previous blog – #TeamRingo – my view from the ground. I loved writing that blog and I hope it was an enjoyable read. I know I’ve banged on about how the life of #TeamDuke has changed in the last year but, with a few last remaining ‘adjustments’ to be made, life is pretty damn good. And, thank you for asking.

I’d be lying if I said things don’t still make us sad. The great Chester Bennington from Linkin Park taking his life this week was heartbreaking. 41 years old, married, with 6 children. Wealth beyond what most of us could dream. Respected by his peers, adored by his fans. But, his tortured mind did not see a way forward so he ended his life. Truly sad. When will the world wake up and understand that wealth and fame do not equal happiness. EVERYONE needs love, support, and understanding from beyond their immediate circle – beyond adoration. This understanding must be focussed on the heart healing the head. This, of course, is in my humble opinion. There is hope for us all, but we need to ensure we can all see that. We need to make sure that we can all see the light. Rest in peace Chester. May you have now found your place of stillness and balance.

I’m grateful for my life and all that it brings – even the challenges (spell check just changed that to ‘chalkboard’).

I now learn from the challenges and use that learning to, hopefully, help others. My life purpose – helping others. Would you believe it? Helping others unconditionally, in the realms of their normal lives and not trying to implant into their minds that there is a high place for them. If you don’t know what I mean, have a look on Facebook where there are several groups / sects trying to ‘reach out’ and convince the vulnerable that there is a way to escape our impending doom. There is, stop looking on Facebook at the groups / sects who are trying to convince you that their way is the right way. YOUR way is the right way! Sorry, rant over. It took me a while to realise that there are 144,000 light energy reasons to realise that ascension is a distraction from the masses doing what actually needs to be done.

Funnily, if you read or hear about some of this clap trap, the world should have ended several times by now. I seem to remember an instance in September 2015 when a disaster was due to strike. When it didn’t, it actually did but only the ‘believers’ would understand. Well, September 2015 is when the Leeds Rhinos won the 2nd of their 3 trophies that year so that wasn’t a disaster for me.

Sorry, I’m making light of a serious subject but I truly worry that groups / sects / cults are forming in a similar way to the moonies and the like. If you’re looking for a cult, join Donald Trump (there goes spell check again!).

Anyway, let’s raise a glass and toast having a damn good rant.

Joking apart about routine, but I guess I have always been a routine kind of person. However, over the last year I have sought to change things around a little bit. A great example is the big shop (for those outside of the UK who don’t understand that term, it is the weekly grocery shop when you stock up on everything you need and a lot that you don’t). I would alway do it on a Saturday. I would have to be on my way by midday. I would have to fill 2 wine carriers (12 bottles). I would need to be home so lunch could be eaten close to 2 pm, etc. Now, I should when I want and how I want. It’s now a month since I last bought any win to have at home. I guess I’ve actually developed a routine of not having a routine.

However, I do love a good routine and I do believe it is good for the mind and spirit. My favourite is when on holiday, Ben and I go out every morning to collect bread and the like for breakfast. W always walk down to the village, wander along the promenade, buy newspapers, look out to see, and then buy breakfast. We talk about the impending football (soccer!!!!) season, the upcoming Leeds Festival etc. Pure joy. I also built into the afternoon of the holiday a good walk with Liv, so that we could have a chat. Well, actually, it’s so Liv can have an ice cream. Whatever it takes, it’s still pure joy.

Talking of the Leeds Festival, which we routinely go to every year, although one routine has been broken this year as Ben is paying for me (❤️), we chose our food type of the weekend and that’s what we stick to. For the last 2 years it’s been good old fish and chips and, for a festival, they are rather good. We even found the same caterers at the recent Let’s Rock Leeds festival. Pure joy!

I know being a free spirit and spontaneous is good and there are times that I’ll go along with the that concept. I just need to schedule it into my routine.

I’m always one for a simple life, so if putting a blend of routine and spontaneity into hat I think I can cope. As I’ve written about this year, 2017 has always being about moving forwards. Yes, #TeamDuke will always need a rant. But, that rant is no longer about looking backwards. It is meant to be about highlighting potential areas of concern that we have experienced and just wan to put out there as a note of caution.

To conclude, what was the purpose of this blog, I hear you asking? Well, the whole idea came about from one of the many reasons why I love our gorgeous dog, Ringo. Routine! Every morning, he joins me for breakfast – as simple as that. I wander into the kitchen, potter around, drop into the dining room to say hi to him. He just lies there until he hears the pop of the toaster and the scraping of butter on the toast. He then appears and sits in front of me whilst we share toast. I used to b such a grumpy pillock in the morning but he’s changed a major part of my life. Pure joy! I even now pick up Audrey on the way to the office so that we can have a catch up. Another routine. Pure joy!

So, there you go. Let’s raise a glass and toast routine. And let’s routine the toast.

Wishing you an awesome day, week, month, year, life. Keep it real because real is pretty damn good.

 

Jon

 

 

#TeamDuke It’s a family affair

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“The most important thing in the world is family and love.” – John Wooden

“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.” – Michael J. Fox

“In every conceivable manner, the family is link to our past, bridge to our future.” – Alex Haley

3 quotes for the price of 1. You’re very welcome.

Here we are skipping towards the summer, and here I am, reflecting – AGAIN – on life from my rather grounded view of the world.

I consider myself lucky to be able to observe from this grounded position, as I try and look at what is in front of me. I guess it’s what makes me the person that I am.

Today, I want to celebrate the family. Simple as that. Family again, I hear you ask? Yes, my dear friend, family.

I am lucky when I look out at my family. I was extremely lucky to have been raised by a wonderful mum and dad. They are the reason for me being who I am today. Beyond that, I am grateful to have 2 brothers, who are great friends, and then there are my wonderful sisters in law and nephews, aunt and cousin. And then, there are the great brothers and sisters in law and nephews and nieces on my ex wife’s side of this awesome family. And then, her aunts, uncles, cousins etc etc. And then, my incredible friends, who are as much family as friends.

But, of course, I then look at the family who provide the shield of love at home. Ben, Liv, Ringo, Zeekee, and now Audrey. The unconditional love that they bring can never be under estimated.

And, I guess, that’s where this blog kicks in.

As any discerning reader will know, Ben and Liv’s mum walked out of the family home nearly a year ago. Yes, she walked away from her family – including all of the above wonderful souls. I understand that she believes that she followed her path. No, she walked out and now suggests that her husband, son, and daughter did not support her on her quest. I’ll leave it there, as the purpose of the blog is not to throw mud. However, I think a little humanistic honesty is required. Clearly, I am happy to debate this point – off-line.

So, the last year has been a hell of a ride for #TeamDuke, but the above is where the story started.

As those who have followed the story of #TeamDuke through this year’s blogs, I have looked to celebrate. Yes, celebrate. You can never under estimate the lowest of the low point from where we started. Ben was away at Camp America when he heard what had happened. Liv was suffering from her own challenges. Me? This isn’t about me. This, as I’ve said is a celebration. Of course there has been bitterness. I’m human. I believe I’m loving, caring and loyal. So, the starting point was low.

But, in the last year, the power of the family has been immense. However, for the purpose of this blog, I am going to focus on the wonderment of who I am honoured to call my son and daughter. I want to raise a glass to them, and celebrate our life together.

Ben – for so many years, we have been close. We share a love of music and rugby league. But, it’s so much more than that. He described me as being more like a brother. How awesome is that! I always thought I would get to the point where I would be fading out pottering along behind him at the Leeds Festival. Well, how wrong could I be! This year, Ben will be 23 and HE’S paying for me to go with him. Words fail me.

Ben is such a steadying influence on his sister. Obviously they have spats. But they are so close and, at times of frustration about their absent mother, they support each other.

I don’t think Ben truly understands what a wonderful, loving, funny, charming young man he is. Sorry if I’m being a tad gushing but, it is a family affair and as #TeamDuke we want to inspire others to realise all hope has not gone. Hope is really as long as there is love.

Liv – well, where do I start. A more beautiful, understated soul I am yet to meet. Liv constantly talks about lacking confidence, but when the going gets tough, Liv rises above all others and defeats whatever is placed in front of her.

The last year has been tough for Liv, perhaps longer. It has been suggested Liv is dramatic. No, she’s honest!

Liv was there for me in the early days of ‘well, I didn’t see that coming’; days of feeling rejected.

Liv has some much love in her heart and has grown with such strength.

As a collective, I didn’t think #TeamDuke could be any closer. Through the sharing of love, support, laughter, and a few tears, we have and will continue to do so.

Ben and Liv know I’m there for them 24 / 7, but I know they are for me – although I’m not sure how Liv would react if I woke her at 4 am to tell her there was a moth in my room. Or how Ben would react if I woke him up at 4 am to tell him I’m home from a night out clubbing, and then lay with him for 15 minutes for a chat.

I love it!

And, let’s not forget Ringo (dog) and Zeekee (cat). The positive energy, the unconditional love, and the fun that they bring to our home. 18 months ago I would not have wanted another animal in the house – the latest hamster going to the great wheel in the sky some months before. However, I was so wrong. We are very lucky and I am grateful for the day I woke up.

It would be remiss not to say a few words about Audrey. For so long, friends with a common interest in music and the regular chat around mindfulness, basic spiritual stuff, books on positive thinking, and a bit of psychology. However, here we are, a few months in and going strong. Apart from the happiness that Audrey has ignited within me, she has also provided incredible support and companionship already that Ben and Liv.

Finally, I know I refer to how lucky I am to have such incredible friends. In this blog, I want to name check the phenomenal Ramsdens. I have been close to Steve and Susan for many years, but the support that they have given me / #TeamDuke has been beyond words. I could never find the words to express my gratitude to them. At those darker times, they would appear with a bottle of wine, a home made cake, a smile, and plenty of hugs. Thank you ❤️.

In essence, it is a family affair. Be that blood family or members who have joined along the way.

Sorry if the blog has been a bit indulgent. Also, sorry if I have embarrassed anyone through being overly emotional.

And sorry if I have offended my ex-wife.

Vivienne – this is not the intention. I know you won’t be reading this but I am just saying it as it is – let’s say in the 3rd dimension. In fact, I have so much to be grateful to you for, and for that I thank you. #TeamDuke are strong; we are alive and kicking. Ben and Liv have some of your positive characteristics from when you were there for them, as their mum. We do not judge. We observe. We do not carry self pity. We carry emotions and, thankfully, those emotions are intact. Ben and Liv love you from their hearts. I’ll leave it there. I hope as your 50th birthday passes, you can reach inside and remember what role a mum has to play in their children’s lives. You had one of the best role models I can think of.

God bless. It is a family affair.

 

Jon

 

 

Daddy’s source

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“Being a father has been, without a doubt, my greatest source of achievement, pride and inspiration. Fatherhood has taught me about unconditional love, reinforced the importance of giving back and taught me how to be a better person.” – Naveen Jain

So, here we are. In the northern hemisphere we are moving towards summer and that always brings hope of a little sunshine and a lot of good times.

For us in #TeamDuke, this summer brings with it a slightly different twist, as we will see the first year pass since Ben and Liv’s mum decided to quit the role she had done so magnificently for many years and felt she had a bigger task – to save the world. Interestingly, since this quest started we have seen Donald Trump elected as the president of the United States, terrorist attacks have continued at an alarming rate around the world, famine is on the rise, thousands are leaving their war torn homelands, and I could continue. However, we in #TeamDuke can sleep easy, as the lands in the microcosm of Portugal where the departed one now resides are well cared for.

But, the tone of this blog is not a negative one, as we have worked hard on not looking back. The tone is very much positive and we celebrate where we are now and we continue to share our lives in the hope it provides some hope, inspiration, fun and, if nothing else, a bit of entertainment.

Welcome, then, to another observation from here at ground level – my view from the ground.

My aim is to reflect honestly and from the heart. Yes, perhaps at times, I digress a tad to look at the reasons for my taking up temporary residence in a dark place. But, as the Rag N Bone Man so accurately put it, “I’m only human”. I’m certainly nothing special. With a twinkle toed side step like Joel Moon (only rugby league – best sport in the world – fans will understand that one), as Chris Martin warbled “I’ve been reading books of old. The legends and the myths. Achilles and his gold. Hercules and his gifts. Spiderman’s control. And Batman with his fists. And clearly I don’t see myself upon that list.”.

As 2017 has rolled on, I have sought to share how #TeamDuke has moved from a state of adversity to a place of happiness. How we have brought our house back to being the home base to which we return for our collective fun and family love. How we look at and are grateful for everything last thing we have, and not be angry at what we don’t. And, so on. The blogs have reached out to people in various ways. Some, perhaps, more relevant to the reader than others. But, as I’ve said before, if one blog helps one people, giving that one person inspiration and hope, then I am a very, very happy soul. Apart from anything else, if that one person then takes that message to help someone else, the multiply effect kicks in.

I remember, in my days of – let’s say – taking this spirituality lark a bit too seriously, being challenged as to what my life purpose was. Basically, why was I on this planet. Well, apart from to eat Indian food, drink red wine, say inappropriate things, and to be the butt of others’ humour I was a bit stuck for an answer.

That is a joke of course. My purpose always has been and always will be to be here for my family and friends. But, I was always challenged that there must be more. Surely, the love that I have for my family and friends could be better used through a greater, a higher, calling. Looking back, it felt like the suggestion that I dare place family and friends above anything else was wrong.

But, no, wait a minute there! How can having your life purpose as being there for your family and friends not be enough? To be there to provide stability, love, comfort, support, to be a rock, and, in essence, to actually BE THERE!

Surely, by providing all of this, by having the sole purpose to be that rock is actually the ground from which life can then grow. It gives that knowledge to those who grow from that base that they can always return to that person when love, support and so on is needed to aid their continued growth. Am I making sense?

I love being a dad! I love being here for Ben and Liv. Simple as that. I love the fact that they know that I am here – always. I may need to travel for work but I return to our home. I love being grateful to have such an awesome, loving son and daughter. I love that we are friends as much as anything else. I love what we all share together. I love that we can inspire others through our love for each other, and that may, just may, help others with their life journey. Is that wrong?

From well watered soil life can grow. That soil needs to have continued watering and tendering to ensure that good life can grow. It needs a constant source of water. I’d say daddy’s source. I’m grateful for being given the opportunity of being that source for #TeamDuke.

Without going too much over the top, but I truly believe that we are bloody awesome. Just saying. And, I am proud that my life purpose is being fulfilled, right here right now. I’m available 24 / 7, where ever I am. That’s the commitment I have made, and I will stick to it. I love my son and daughter with my whole heart. That love does then expand beyond our home, because I know what has been created here is stunning. I am grateful for the family and friends I have in my life, and I am grateful that #TeamDuke has welcomed Audrey as a new team member. We may have to change to #TeamDuke+ARatherSmallPerson. Something to think about.

Okay, time to wind my neck in. Thanks for reading my latest blast of energy. I hope life is good and you can be there for those who need you. Your presence can never be more important than it is today.

Peace and love. Stay safe. Just be careful out there. As I finish this blog, my heart goes to those affected by the latest terrorist attack, this time in London. My heart also goes to those recently affected by terrorist attacks in Manchester and the atrocities in Kabul.

Jon

Happy Song – #TeamDuke bring (me) the (musical) horizon

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“I think music in itself is healing. It’s an explosive expression of humanity. It’s something we are all touched by. No matter what culture we’re from, everyone loves music.” – Billy Joel

Song from Pinocchio – “When you get in trouble and you don’t know right from wrong, give a little whistle! Give a little whistle! When you meet temptation and the urge is very strong, give a little whistle! Give a little whistle! Not just a little squeak, pucker up and blow. And if your whistle’s weak, yell “Juminy Cricket!” Take the straight and narrow path and if you start to slide, give a little whistle! Give a little whistle! And always let your conscience be your guide.”

I accept one of the more random starts to one of the ground based views of 2017. But the quote and the song are, well, an indication as to focus of the blog. Last year I wrote a blog about my love of music. And, I must admit, I do love music. Listening to it, not playing it or singing. I can do neither play or sing.

I wish I could but the world’s not ready. I have a real admiration of those who have the ability to sing and play, and then can stand in front of an audience. Living the dream. A good friend, Ryan Askew (as featured in the book, These Wings Can Fly), does just that. Awesome! It’s great to see the joy it brings him, as part of the excellent duo, Mild Junk. And, of course, the joy it brings their audience. Magic!

As Billy Joel said, music is healing and #TeamDuke can confirm that. Interestingly, well for me anyway, I’ve just been listening to a track by Imagine Dragons – Whatever It Takes. I think that’s the title for a future blog, because I will do whatever it takes in life. We all should, it just takes something to happen to slap you round the face to realise that.

So, happy song? Where an I going with this. Bear with me, please, my mind is awash with lots of garbled things. I suppose, thinking about how the blogs have developed this year, I am just looking to express the ingredients to the happy mix that has been the development of #TeamDuke in 2017.

Music has been a significant contributor to our development- both as #TeamDuke but also individually. I’ve been lucky that both Ben and Liv have shared my love of music and we have experienced some truly magical moments together – be that: –

  • Ben seeing Sum 41 when he was 8 at Manchester Arena (my heart goes out to those who perished in the recent terrorist attack. #ILoveManchester.
  • Ben going to the Leeds Festival for the first time when he was 9
  • Liv’s first concert – My Chemical Romance, when she fell asleep
  • Green Day at Wembley where Liv experienced the incredible magic of one of the best bands in the world
  • ……… and so one.

And that was before our life changing event (although, rumour has it, the world hasn’t ended or ascended to the 99th dimension or something like that anyway).

Music – a common bond that brings people together, be that in a venue holding 10 or a stadium holding 90,000.

As I have referenced above, we are all aware of the tragic events at Manchester Arena. 18,000 brought together through their love of music. 18,000 people able to experience a possibly a once in a lifetime event. Only for that life to be ripped apart through an act of pure evil. An act intended to create a divide in society. An act intended to draw others to the extreme views of so few.

However, this was an act that must be used to bring us together. To bring society even closer together. For the collective to rise and say no to any form of extremism. Together we will be stronger. That way, extremism will fade into that place it needs to be. And then we need to learn what fuels extremism and to educate appropriately.

We must have just as a reason to celebrate, and we must continue to join together in that celebration of music.

I make no secret of my personal love of music. It’s a celebration; it’s a relaxant; it’s a joy; it’s a healer; it provides words that help you to express an emotion. And so on. I can think of tracks that Ben, Liv and I have discussed that tell the story of our development over the last few months. I always remember Liv telling me that Medicine by Biffy Clyro perfectly summed up how she felt about her mum walking out of the family home. For weeks we sang it together in the car and, more often that that, I would become a tad teary.

I then played it to Ben, suggesting he listened to the lyrics, as we were driving to the Leeds festival to see …….. Biffy Clyro, and I became teary. That’s music for you.

But it is such a a way to escape, to express, to join together, to sit alone, to laugh, to become teary, to be yourself. It’s magic.

We are lucky to have that bond as #TeamDuke. Music is always there and it’s there as I type this (on a train back from London).

And if you can’t listen to it, don’t forget when you get in trouble and you don’t know right from wrong, give a little whistle. Just use music as that release.

So, when you started ready this blog, I’m sure you wondered where it was going. Well, here you are wondering where you’ve arrived. Regard this like a trip to the shop but you ended up in the pub. Life is full of surprises and this blog is just another one.

I was going to finish the blog with a song. But I’ll throw out a question – what is your happy song? Just think. I hope it puts a smile on your face.

I wish you well.

Jon

Animal house. #TeamDuke – a year to remember

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👁❤️2 ……………………….. pick up the poo from the ground………. not a nice view
And so another View From The Ground blog starts with a quote. Not one; not two; yes, threes quotes. Why? Well, in truth, I tried to copy / paste one quote but seemed to collect three. However, in reality I love these quotes as the capture the theme of the latest, all singing and dancing, #TeamDuke update. So, welcome again to regular readers, new readers, and those who are just curious at what may unfold before their eyes.

“People will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.” – Maya Angelou

“Two roads diverged in the road and I took the one less traveled by, and that made all the difference.” – Robert Frost

“You must be the change you wish to see in the world.” – Gandhi

Please bear with me as I unwind what is whirling around in my head. The title of the blog captures three themes, whereas as the sub-title captures what I capture from one of those themes. Mmmmm, now that’s something to behold.

So, I hope life is treating you well and that you are treating life well. Now, there’s a thought straight away – how many of us expect life to be good to us rather than us being good to life? Confused? Let me expand, as this idea has just dropped in.

When we wake up, do we a) groan; or b) express gratitude for a new day? Now, if the answer is a), there’s work to do. If the answer is b) you’re in a brilliant place and can stand up and take a round of applause. Me? I’m an a) and b) kind of guy these days and am proud to have developed away from just being an almighty a++) person.

Once we are up and about, do we a) dread the day; or b) enjoy the moment and work on making the best out of the day ahead. Now, if the answer is a), there’s work to do. If the answer is b) you’re in a brilliant place and can stand up and take a round of applause. Me? I’m less a) and more b) and, again, am proud to have developed away from just being an almighty a++) person.

I hope you get the picture. It’s useful exercise and one I personally try to do regularly to switch my old, natural, pessimistic self, into a more positive focussed person. As those who know me well will confirm, it’s a road I still travel daily and I do have occasional slips along the way.

The core at the #TeamDuke base – as featured in the last blog – Our House – is now, an old man (me), a young man (Ben), a young lady (Liv), a cat – the boss (The Zeek), and a dog – a doofus (Ringo).

If someone has said that our home would be made up of 3 humans, a cat and a dog a year ago I’d have thought they were thinking about another home. However, here we are! A veritable animal house and loving it.

The Zeek joined us 16 months ago and is a beautiful , majestic animal. She’s the boss and we all know that.

However, welcoming Ringo into the home has been a completely different experience. Liv has wanted a dog for years but I steadfastly held out that it just wouldn’t work. Recent times have softened me and here we are, With a great big doofus of a border collie.

It’s also being a big thing for Ben, who has always felt uncomfortable around dogs. But, Ben recognised that bringing a dog into the home would be good for Liv, so he gracefully agreed.

And, here we are, Ringo joined us and introduced me to having to deal with the poo from the ground. Nice! However, the many, many wonderful things he has brought to our home have, at times, being overwhelming.

I’ve seen on Facebook a picture of a man and a dog, sitting by a lake with thought bubbles over their heads. The man’s is full of work, money, news, relationships, anger, etc. The dog’s just has an image of the lake, as that is all he sees. I’ve always liked this image, but never really understood it.

But with Ringo, I fully get it now. I know all dog owners will understand this but please bear with me, as this is new experience for #TeamDuke.

The morning is the best example. I roll out of bed, feeling the gratitude for doing so of course. I stumble around the house, doing my best to be positive but remembering the things I need to do in the day, growling at a slightly loose tap (faucet), grumbling that Liv has left the bathroom light on …………. again, reminding myself I need to put some fuel in the day, and so on.

The Zeek wanders around close by, looking at her food bowl and wondering how Donald Trump is the most powerful person in the world. She’s very intelligent. And then, I open the downstairs door to Ringo. Does he leap with delight at seeing me? Does he run around looking for food? Does he ask me whether I’m worried that Theresa May has called at election and she won’t have any dogs standing to be elected for parliament? Nope! He looks at the door and telepathically tells me he’s got a gift for me. Another poo from the ground.

After that, and breakfast, the magic begins. My head is still awash with the day (positively of course), but it’s time to ask the question – “where’s your lead?”. This is where the perspective kicks in and I tune into Ringo’s frequency. Those words trigger unbelievable excitement as he Runs in circles. I can’t help but be swept up by his enthusiasm. No work, money, news, anger issues can break into this bubble of fun. He leaps trying to get into his harness and we end up leaping around together. Yes, dear folk who are used to my scowling, grumpy face, I leap about. It’s impossible not to.

And, that the magic. All of us in #TeamDuke have been effected by the joy for life that Ringo has injected into our home – even The Zeek.

As I said, all dog owners will resonate with this but, for me, this has been such an awakening. My dream for these blogs is to share our learnings and to, hopefully, bring a smile and even some hope when it’s needed. I want people to feel our happiness and, in turn, feel happy.

So, 2017, a year to remember. That was the plan at the start of the year and that continues to be the #TeamDuke mission. So far, so good. As we look at our achievements so far, Ben is doing great at work and is looking forward to a summer of music festivals; Liv has been to Belgium and Denmark this year, going on her own. Such a step forward; me? Well, as I have alluded I have someone in my life now – Audrey. It’s early days but the magic is there to be seen and felt. Im truly grateful for the joy Audrey has brought to me, but also, in turn, to #TeamDuke.

Ben and Liv are such wonderful people and, in the last 10 months, we have really learned about the strength of #TeamDuke. I am so blessed to have such an awesome son and daughter.

Life for #TeamDuke is on an upward trajectory. But we will never take what we have for granted. We are grateful for every day and for everything we have.

And, at this point, I will wrap up another #TeamDuke update. Ringo needs a walk and I’m looking forward to letting the dog out, and having a jump around.

I wish you peace, happiness and that you also have a year to remember.

Jon

Our house – #TeamDuke

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❤️2 ……………………. return home
“Where we love is home – home that our feet may leave, but not our hearts.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr.

“Love begins at home, and it is not how much we do… but how much love we put in that action.” – Mother Teresa

I’m at it again, 2 quotes; 1 blog. However, as ever, there’s a message to share, so please bear with me as we open another window in the house of #TeamDuke.

Welcome to this View From The Ground blog. I hope you are enjoying the sharing of our experiences. To be honest, it’s almost like keep a journal – well, sort of. Please bear with me whilst I expand (just like my stomach) on that point.

Before I do, that you for the great response to the last blog – Talk Talk – It’s my life with #TeamDuke. I was overwhelmed by the number of people who peeked through the curtains into our world. I hope you will stay with us and continue to share, celebrate, hopefully be inspired by our ongoing development as the beautiful #TeamDuke.

Over the course of the year, I have tried to share the experiences of #TeamDuke. We are nothing remarkable, when compared to millions of others. However, we are proud of who we are and where we are in relation to our on-going well being. I’m not going to rehash previous blogs on which I have discussed matters relating to the starting point of our journey. If you want to have a look, the #TeamDuke blog is a good starting point.

However, over the course of this year’s blog, I have shared what I would describe as the building blocks which have helped us grow even stronger as a family of 3 – + Zeekee the cat, Ringo the dog, and, well, the new person in my life.

The building blocks – or as I have just mistyped, ‘building blogs’ (an accidental play on words, but actually quite good, so I’m going to use that) – have been based around love, gratitude for what we have (not what / who we’ve lost), the power of family and friends, open communication, helping others, and so on. But the key has been the building blogs (😀) have been shared in the hope that our experiences will help as many people as possible; maybe even inspire action. I certainly hope they put a smile on the reader’s face.

So, what’s the latest building blog (I really do like this term!) about? Well, you might have guessed it’s about the magic of being at home and the incredible place home is / should.

Our house is nothing outstanding. It’s a nice semi-detached. Our house, in the middle of our street. Sounds like Madness? Not really, but I don’t want to become an embarrassment by going on about the house. But, the magic happens because our house is our home.

I guess my point here is the emphasis being on it being a home, not just a house. A place where we gather to talk, to laugh, maybe to cry, to dance like no one is watching, to sit in perfect peace and to be just so.

Ben reminded me recently in those challenging times last year, there were days when I would come home from work and, within minutes, be exclaiming that I should have stopped at the office. Sadly, the home was suddenly a house. It was soulless. I’m sure those who know me will understand the irony – and, as I seem to say a lot, I do love a bit of irony. Now, this is not a dig; it’s a fact and something for which I accept my fair share of responsibility. I didn’t at the time but, upon reflection, I’ll hold my hand up.

However, the commitment we have made as #TeamDuke is to recreate what this wonderful building was for many years – a beautiful home, where we could welcome family, friends, and basically everyone who wanted to join us.

As I discussed in the previous blog, Talk Talk – It’s my life with #TeamDuke, communication is so very important. In equal measures, having a place where we can talk openly is critical – home!

I love that over the last few months we have returned to having a home where people can and will turn up unannounced – wonderful. Where friends will appear at the door, a bottle of wine in hand, ready to have fun. To many people, I’m sure this is no big deal. I understand that, but for us it has been so important because we had lost that.

So, what’s the message? Having now read nearly 800 words I’m sure this is a question that is whirling around your mind. Sorry. I suppose the message is hidden as another exclamation of gratitude. I’m grateful for my house in the middle of our street. It’s our home; it’s our roots; it’s our little piece of heaven; it’s our place to continue creating those bricks of growth and they, in turn, can become future building blogs.

I think I’ll close there. As I sit at home; in my place of quiet reflection and quiet gratitude for everyone and everything in my life. I am blessed and I hereby place on record my love and gratitude to all who have brush passed me through life. Those who have been and gone, thanks for the memories. This who have come and stayed – watch this space as the ride could get interesting. For now, the door of our home is open to you.
Jon xxx

Anger is an energy

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“Have you ever noticed that the only metaphor we have in our public discourse for solving problems is to declare war on it? We have the war on crime, the war on
cancer, the war on drugs. But did you ever notice that we have no war on homelessness? You know why? Because there’s no money in that problem. No money to be made off of the homeless. If you can find a solution to homelessness where the corporations and politicians can make a few million dollars each, you will see the streets of America begin to clear up pretty damn quick!” – George Carlin

  • For America, read the UK, Canada, Australia or any country in the world.

Hi. It’s been a while since my last blog and for this one I’m stepping away from my #TeamDuke theme. That continues to be wonderful. But, away from that microcosm of happiness, I’m angry. Why I can hear you ask, and I’m grateful for your interest. What? You didn’t ask? Mmmmm, sorry – but I am angry.

I’ve just spent 2 days in London. 2 good days in London. The capital of England. A must visit city in the world – after Leeds, of course. What? You’ve not heard of Leeds? Mmmmm, you should come. We’ll welcome you with open arms.

Anyway, enough of this flippancy as this is actually a rant, but I want to use this anger as an energy. Not just my anger, but my mission is to gather a collective anger to convert into a collect energy. Homelessness must stop!!! End of!!!!! I accept that is a general, sweeping, statement but I am so wound up.

As I walked around streets on the edge of the finance centre of one of the richest cities in the world, time and time again I saw someone sitting / laying on the street, with all of their worldly possessions in a bag at the side of them. Most weren’t asking for money. They were just there as if it was so normal.

Time and time again, a well dressed person, with a shopping bag from one of the countless designer shops strolled by. Or, like me, a suited and booted person strode to their next destination. Yes, I’m not suggesting I’m innocent- although I do try and help but this is biggest than one large than average person.

Now, I am not being judgemental, preaching, or suggesting that each of those people haven’t work and earned the right to buy whatever they want. But I am reflecting at how it made me feel seeing people who, I believe, have being dealt a horrible hand in life and find themselves living on the streets. Sliding doors springs to mind. Just one different step and could any one of us have being that person sleeping outside Aldgate East tube station? How many times do you read about someone who missed a flight, and the plane they missed tragically crashed. The same applies for anything in life. As I said, sliding doors.

It really effected me, especially when you also get approached by someone who needed money for food. Okay, you could question was it really for food, but who the hell am I to judge someone who looks sad, disheveled and desperate? Who are any of us to judge someone begging? We don’t know their back story; we don’t know what hell they have been through to end up living on the streets.

So, it’s a call to arms my friends. Who knows someone who can help the homeless and help them to be homed? May be not permanently but at least to provide a roof over their heads whilst something more substantial can be found. What about an empty building or vacated office space? There are so many vacant building – certainly in London – and these could provide shelter, dry shelter, for so many. What about church, synagogue, mosque, chapel, temple community halls? Empty, so many empty. Can’t these be better used?

It doesn’t matter who your god is, surely we all have a collective responsibility to help our fellow human beings?

I know I have written previous blogs about my frustration that people still have to sleep on the street. The reality is, they don’t have to but until those who can do something about it do just that, do something about it, we will continue to see people huddled on the floor. For crying out loud, just to write that feels so wrong. A fellow human being has to sleep outside, on the floor, because we will not provide shelter.

We all read about those who are worth billions etc. Just imagine what 1%, just 1%, of their collective wealth could do. Homelessness would be history. And they could offset that 1% against their tax bill. Tax bill? Let’s not go there.

So, what do we want to do? Do we let this continue or do we propose to make some noise?

Me? Get ready. I’m preparing. This is just the start.

Take care, and thank you for your time. I really do believe, with the right intentions, anger is an energy.

Jon

#TeamDuke #StillBreathing

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View from the ground – ❤ 2 ………… have a view from the gods (at Leeds Arena) of #GreenDay on the #RevRad tour 

“Family is not an important thing. It’s everything.” – Michael J. Fox

Few words are available to express the magic and joy of bellowing out Still Breathing by Green Day with Ben and Liv and 13,500 others at the First Direct Arena in Leeds tonight. Arms round each other. The words have true meaning. A moment that will live with me.

Pride, joy, passion, love, togetherness, hope, and celebration are just some of the emotions experienced.

Thank you Ben and Liv. You’ll never truly know what you mean to me.

xxxx

Reasons to be cheerful 1 2 3 (#TeamDuke and the #family and #friends)

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View From The Ground – ❤ 2 ……………… be cheerful

“We tend to focus on our problems in life and to take for granted our blessings and achievements. It is natural that we think about the difficulties we face and the challenges we have to overcome but there is a real danger that when we do this we can become become weighed down with worry or negative feelings. It is good to step back for a moment from our day to day cares and to list all the things that are going well in our life. It will give us a positive lift and help to put our problems into perspective.” – Paul Sloane

Hello and welcome to another view from the ground. Here we are, at the start of the second month of 2017 and another step in what has been set as an awesome year.

I truly hope that it is an awesome year from all, in and amongst the continued lunacy that is spread before us on the news. I don’t need to go into detail and, of course, we all have different views as to what us going on around us. I still wish someone would launch a new channel that featured good news only. Imagine that! Of course, the owners of our news media would not allow that. They need us to live in fear. Whoops, sorry – dangerous opinion alert 😀.

Anyway, my intention is to focus on positivity and to help anyone and everyone who want to join #TeamDuke on our adventures in 2017.

The blogs so far this year have been a step away from last year’s blogs. But the intentions are the same – to provide help and support to others; to provide hope; and to hopefully have some fun.

There’s a book in the making. The original draft from last year needs a complete rewrite, to reflect the change in direction that my life has taken. The new book is taking shape and there’ll be more news on that.

I hope the blogs are providing, at the very least, some entertainment and beyond that an injection of positivity. And, that where the idea for reasons to be cheerful came from. Again, reflecting on the ‘have’ not the ‘have not’. A quick listen to the brilliant song by Ian Dury, which includes “Something nice to study, phoning up a buddy. Being in my nuddy. Saying hokey-dokey, Sing along with Smokey”, provided the encouragement to reflect the many reasons to be cheerful, and here’s not 1, not 2, but 3.

Reasons to be cheerful, part 1

I know I have talked a lot about #TeamDuke. But I am fiercely proud of our bond, our love, our unity, and our friendship. I hope to inspire others that, in the face of our collective adversity that we have become so strong and are now purely focussed on continuing to move forwards.

A big commitment Ben, Liv and I have made is to be always there for each other and to be ready to talk at any time. So, there’s nothing like a good chat at 4:00 am. #TeamDuke is a 24/7 thing. To share the highs, the lows, and the fuzzy bits in the middle. But a great learning I have experienced is based on one of the oldest sayings – life is short, so don’t waste a minute of it.

I know sleep is important for our mental well being and I know it is one if the first things I recommend that people should be wary of. But, I wouldn’t want to miss the chance of a chilled chat with Ben or Liv at whatever time. So, when a rather ‘relaxed’ Ben appears at the bedroom door at 4:00 am checking on how I am, it’s not an opportunity I am going to miss. And a good chat it was. I love the connection the 3 of us have. Before coming in to talk to me, Ben and Liv had been chewing the cud in the living room (lounge; front room; or what ever you call it). Again, awesome!

I know what we have is not exclusive. I really don’t want it to be. I want this kind of connection to be enjoyed by everyone. What a wonderful world that would be, and what a great news story it would me. If it was allowed to make the news.

Reasons to be cheerful, part 2

As I have said before, family and friends are critical to the rise of #TeamDuke. My love and appreciation of their / your support will never be forgotten or taken for granted.

I know I have talked about it in previous blogs, particularly in ‘The importance of being honest’, but I can’t over emphasise the importance of talking to people, especially when we are feeling down or vulnerable. I have to be honest in that I have spent most of my life being a closed book, and had almost been proud of the fact. It was no ones fault but my own. I was regularly being asked if I was okay, and I would always answer the same way – ‘yeah, I’m okay’, or ‘not bad’ (an expression I NEVER use now). How many people do the same?

How many times are we actually saying ‘I’m pretty rubbish but what’s the point of talking about it. Things won’t change.’ We close the book and leave our feelings to deteriorate in doing so. It’s easier to do that, because we fear that by talking about what is making us feel down, it will make us feel worse. Or, that it wouldn’t help anyway. Again, I will put my hand up (as it were) and admit that person used to me. Poor me.

But, what about, when someone cares enough to keep asking, and then ask again. And, after asking again, and again, you realise that person really wants to hear what you have to say. They want you to open the book. How easier is it not to realise that person could be the one, along with your family and friends, who could be the one to bring the additional dimension to your moving further forward?

I would strongly urge each and every person I come into contact with to be ready and willing to open their book, because once it opens and those words come tumbling out, the world can feel like a whole better place.

Reasons to be cheerful, part 3

Well, I am blessed to have many, many reasons to be cheerful and I am lucky enough to have been able to write about them. For now, my 3rd reason to be cheerful will have to wait for another blog in the Spring. For now, I am glad that my book has been opened and I don’t intend to close it.

And, at that, I will close. I hope you have many reasons to be cheerful. Have a listen to The late, great Ian Dury. He’ll give you some reasons to be cheerful.

Take care.
Jon