👁 ❤ 2 ……………… be positive

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View From The Ground – an individual take on making 2017 bl00dy brilliant!!!

“I’ve had a lot of worries in my life, most of which never happened” – Mark Twain

“There is little difference in people, but that little difference makes a big difference. The little difference is attitude. The big difference is whether it is positive or negative.” – W. Clement Stone

Here we are again. So soon, but already bursting into 2017 and trying to live by that mantra of the last blog, ‘❤ 2 ……………….. Make Things Happen‘, focussing on the present and using this to move forward. Definitely not dwelling on the past.

Welcome back to the grounded view from which to watch everything unfold before us.

In the last blog – ❤ 2 ……………… Make Things Happen (have I already said that? Sorry, I enjoyed writing it) – I mentioned about launching ‘❤ 2……..’ as a regular feature in the View acromegaly The Ground blogs. The idea being to take about things I love, in the hope of spreading positivity and support. Well, I’ve gone for a variation on that theme already – ‘👁 ❤ 2’. Yes, you’ve got it ‘I love to ………..’. A bit goofy, but a nice hook I hope you agree.

Anyway, enough of the waffle and on with the subject in hand. Positivity. Ironic that I choose to look at positivity after one of the hardest years, and right into what many feel is the hardest month of the year. But, it is actually an easy subject to look at. Mainly, because it is a choice. Easy for me to day? Not really but, again, it’s a choice and, to be honest, it’s a daily exercise.

Let me expand (although, from a waistline point of view, any further expansion may require serious action). Those who know me will automatically smirk at the very title of this blog. Perhaps my old persona may have edged towards thinking good things wouldn’t happen; there’s a few clouds in the sky and therefore it’s going rain; it’s Monday so it will be a bad day. Actually, let’s park the discussion about Monday, that’s work in progress. But, I think you get the idea.

So, moving back to the subject in hand – I love to be positive. Don’t we all?

One of the exercises I have practiced recently is to look at: –

1. What makes me happy; and

2. What doesn’t make me happy.

I appreciate that it sounds simple, but by looking at these simple things it has provided the opportunity to then look deeper.

To start with, by thinking about what doesn’t make me happy, I then created a list. I found it quite easy – although I would ask that you don’t take that as an indication that I don’t love to be positive. I do, I do, I do.

But, by making a list of what doesn’t make me happy, it provides some focus. Things such as the following don’t make me happy: –

Dark mornings
Dark nights
Rain
Bad drivers
Rubbish TV
Monday mornings
Rude people
Delays on the train
Strikes
and so on ………………

Hopefully you get the idea. There’s loads more such as world poverty, war, hunger, homelessness, insufficient government spending on the life’s of schooling, hospitals, emergency services etc. But, let’s concentrate on the list.

I’m sure this seems obvious to many people but, by focusing on the list, I can then think about whether I can do anything to effect any of those items listed. Quite clearly I can’t – it’s as simple as that. So, if I can’t effect them what is the point of letting them make me unhappy.

I am sure, if you’ve got to this part of the blog you’re thinking that time it’s taken you to read the first 600 words of ‘👁 ❤ 2 …………….. be positive’ is time that you will never get back.

However, if just one person benefits from reading this, I feel incredibly happy. It’s all part of that drive for us all to join together, in a very grounded, un-weird, way to support each other and to create a better place for us to exist. A place where we can all live, laugh, and love.

Right, now moving to what makes me happy: –

Family
Friends
My home
Zeekee (our cat)
Where we live
Love
Laughing
Music
Rugby league (a proper sport)
Red wine
A hug
The sun
Lying on a beach
The sea
Indian food
Tea
Coffee
Lying in bed, reading, relaxing, feeling warm
The countryside
Smiling people
Friendly people
Politeness
……………… and I could go on.

Basically, I found, if you really thinking about it, the list of things that make you happy, or could make you happy, is endless. It’s those things that we should express gratitude for on a daily basis.

I know I have written many times about gratitude, but, surely if we are grateful for what we have, that gives us a positive focus.

To celebrate the ‘have’, not mourn the ‘have not’ or, as is more the case, ‘can not’ – in other words, those things we don’t like but can not do anything about.

I know this all seems quite simple, but in my quest to make 2017 bl00dy brilliant, I intend to focus on what makes me happy. Then, I intend to remember to look at those things that don’t make me happy – if I can’t effect them, then stop letting them make me unhappy. If I can effect them, get off my butt, and it is a big butt, and to deal with them.

And, that’s it. I hope you too love to be positive. I’m still learning but in 2017 I’m getting there and 👁 ❤ it!!!!!

Take care, and keep positive. It’s addictive.

Jon

❤ 2 ………….. make it happen

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View From The Ground – 2017

“The best way to not feel hopeless is to get up and do something. Don’t wait for good things to happen to you. If you go out and make some good things happen, you will fill the world with hope, you will fill yourself with hope.” – Barack Obama

“In the middle of every difficulty lies opportunity” – Albert Einstein

Welcome to the first @viewftg blog of 2017. A year of hope, optimism, and real drive to help create something new and meaningful.

Of course, 2017 will present challenges and, from a personal point of view, the current challenges which have pulled through from the mess that was better known as 2016 are being worked through and will – I pray – have a happy ending.

However, the focus for this coming year is to live for the day and look forward to better times. But those hours be better times that we create. Not better times that we expect.

So, how do we do that I hear you ask? After such a tough 2016, how can we create better times? Blimey, 2 questions! But thank you for asking.

Well, in my humble opinion, we all have the ability to help make this a better year. To make this a year of hope, optimism, and to create something new and meaningful.

There is no doubt that 2016 was tough for many, many people. I know there are always people worse off than us and, personally, I am always grateful for the life I have been gifted.

However, I know I have / am experiencing things that I would not wish on anyone else. But, as I have spoken about before, the bad times that me, Ben and Liv have / are experiencing have taught us a lesson about love. The incredible love that we continue to feel from our beautiful family and friends, and many, man people who have stepped forward to provide support.

It is our experiences that make me truly believe that we can make 2017 a wonderful year. I truly believe that all it takes is for us to BELIEVE that we can make it happen.

As Barack Obama said “Don’t wait for good things to happen to you.” Lets start looking at how we can make things happen.

I know that I bang on about the things that I am passionate about – love, gratitude, helping those less fortunate, mindfulness, family, friends and much, much more. Sorry if I overwhelm with my enthusiasm for being passionate about things. Hell, I even won an award for passion. Let me clarify – this was passion about my job (at work) ……………… unfortunately not something else. However, who knows. In fact, who does know????

Sorry, back to the matter in hand – as it were. I am absolutely committed to using my energy to help make this a wonderful year. I want to help others to do the same, so that people can feel love, can start having hope, and to feel good about life. In the 1 5 10 blog I talked about the effect we could have by helping 1 person, and that could soon become 5, and then 10. If those 10 did the same to 10, and so on, the effect could be magnificent.

During 2017 I am going to focus the blogs on things that I love to do in relation to try to create a better life for me, my family, friends and everyone else that I can. I want to focus on positivity and on looking forward. What has gone is just that – it’s gone. We can learn but we can’t change it. If we reflect on it too much it changes what we see today, and in turn effects on what we see tomorrow.

So, I commit to any reflection I see is the reflection of the present day, not the previous one. Thus I can ensure that reflection is the best one possible. Don’t worry, I won’t be looking in the mirror – that reflection has been created in the past, through too much food and wine.

To use my regular question – does that make sense?

Many future blogs will be posted – like this one – with the title of ‘❤2 ………….’. I hope you like them. I know I will enjoy writing them and sharing my thoughts with you. I am grateful that hat you take you value time to have a read. I find writing the blogs real therapy.

Okay, I think I have taken up enough of your time. As I regularly say, if you want to contact me, I’m on Facebook or drop me an email to jonlduke@icloud.com.

Let’s finish with a song. I’ve shared these words from Louis Armstrong before, but they’re appropriate.

“What A Wonderful World”

“I see trees of green,
red roses too.
I see them bloom,
for me and you.
And I think to myself,
what a wonderful world.

I see skies of blue,
And clouds of white.
The bright blessed day,
The dark sacred night.
And I think to myself,
What a wonderful world.

The colors of the rainbow,
So pretty in the sky.
Are also on the faces,
Of people going by,
I see friends shaking hands.
Saying, “How do you do?”
They’re really saying,
“I love you”.

I hear babies cry,
I watch them grow,
They’ll learn much more,
Than I’ll ever know.
And I think to myself,
What a wonderful world.

Yes, I think to myself,
What a wonderful world.

Oh yeah.”

Please take care. Please join the revolution and let’s all love to make it happen.
Jon

#HappyNewYear aka Here Is The Love

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“I wanted to say thanks… and share my gratitude for everything I’ve been blessed with. Family, friends, and continued support from everyone.” – Travis Barker

What? Another View From The Ground blog? So soon? Indeed. There’s times when words and thoughts come tumbling out, and today is just one of those times.

As we claw our way out of 2016, with a veritable yelp of relief, we have 2017 presented before us. A new year; a new start; a new chance. A new chance or just another chance to make the same mistakes?

Welcome to the closing thoughts from my place on the ground. A place I am proud to share with so many wonderful people.

2016? As I have alluded to in previous blogs, it’s been a tough one for so many people. The Syrian crisis; Yemen crisis; terrorism; Brexit in the U.K. And the millions of pounds wasted on that campaign; the USA presidential campaign and outcome and the millions of dollars wasted on that campaign; the continuing plight of refugees and asylum seekers; increased homelessness; increasing mental health issues, and so on.

On top of that, we all have our own personal challenges. Those challenges can make you feel like you are the only one suffering and that the world is against you. I’m sure we all feel like that during our darker moments. To be honest, I certainly have. But, and I’m back to my big but (note: not butt), the important thing I have found in those times of darkness there has always been someone or something to shine a bright light to sow me how to move forward. And for that I am and will always be grateful.

This year has brought me on a personal level many, many lessons. But the greatest lesson has been that love, real love, conquers all. And that love can be found from so many sources – how ever unexpected some of those sources may be.

In turn, having received so much love, I now feel compelled to share that love and to offer that helping hand in 2017 that I have had offered in abundance this year.

Adversity has brought reflection. Reflection on the past person I was – when looking in the mirror, who was I – and that then brings the question, who do I want to be?

I guess this is a useful exercise for us all. Looking in the mirror, what do we see and, more importantly, who do w want to see.

I have previously quoted Man In The Mirror by Michael Jackson. I make no apology for sub quoting some of the lyrics again : –

“I’m Gonna Make A Change, For Once In My Life. It’s Gonna Feel Real Good, Gonna Make A Difference. Gonna Make It Right . . .

As I, Turn Up The Collar On My Favourite Winter Coat. This Wind Is Blowin’ My Mind. I See The Kids In The Street, With Not Enough To Eat. Who Am I, To Be Blind?
Pretending Not To See Their Needs.”

“I’m Starting With The Man In The Mirror. I’m Asking Him To Change His Ways. And No Message Could Have Been Any Clearer. If You Wanna Make The World A Better Place Take A Look At Yourself, And Then Make A Change”

“Got To Make That Change, Today!”

I hope that makes sense. It’s just a few of the lyrics from the song but they are so appropriate from a personal perspective. The love that I + Ben and Liv have received has been beyond anything I released was possible. So, when looking in that mirror, rather than seeing a ‘poor me’ I now know I am seeing a man so wealthy (I was going to say rich, but that’s not a word I like!), that my ‘love’ glass is truly overflowing.

On that basis, I see 2017 as the opportunity to make that change. How many others, on true reflection, can make that change and hold out our hands and offer others at the start of 2017 love and support.

If, when we look in the mirror, we feel that love is there, then we have learned hat responsibility to help others.

My personal view from the ground is that I know know there is so much more that I can offer, and I hope you dear reader feel the same. I would truly love to hear from you – how can you help? Do you need help? My email address is jonlduke@icloud.com. I’m happy to help.

So, to close the last blog of 2017, I will close with a quote.

“Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Thank you for being with my throughout a surreal year. Thank you to all if those who have provided love and support.

Love Jon

Back to love. Back to reality.

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“Wake up and live” ― Bob Marley

“Happiness isn’t about getting what you want all the time. It’s about loving what you have and being grateful for it.”

Love! A strange phenomenon. How many times a day do we say, see, hear the word ‘love’? It’s a wonderful word that makes us smile inside and outside as we are wired to feel it as a positive, uplifting word and therefore a positive emotional response is felt.

Just thinking about the word makes me feel hopeful. I know it’s a word I use a lot, and one of the things I love doing is writing. I love the opportunity it gives to express my thoughts and I hope I can use it in future to help others- as that is my dream.

So, welcome to my view from the ground. Thank you for joining me. A view from the ground is still in its early stages but my true dream is to use View From The Ground as a portal for providing support and guidance to as many as possible. It will also be a place where others can reach to people to provide help through their own experiences.

There are many, many people. – too many – who are feeling challenged by life. But, I truly believe that we all have the opportunity to help each other and to make peoples lives such much better.

And the key to View From The Ground is to do what I do from a place of love. I know, in previous blogs, I have questioned ‘unconditional’ love. The definition is “affection with no limits or conditions; complete love”.

Okay, as a theory I get it. But my experience of unconditional love has been based on it being given on the basis that I agree with that person’s beliefs. That, to me, is conditional.

The mission of View From The Ground is to provide support and guidance through my experiences and observations. To talk about how I have learned about the true meaning of love, Andrew I’m learning to fly without wings – having spent too long trying to work out whether I am round the bend or am learning to turn a corner.

Love – “a strong feeling of affection” or “a great interest and pleasure in something”.

Quite simple really. But, what happens when you lose that affection and that interest in something? Or, when you believe someone has taken away your feelings of love?

Is it possible for someone to take away our ability to love? From a personal perspective, when someone significant left my life, deciding to find their happiness elsewhere, I have spent a good period of time analysing ‘love’.

At this point, it’s important to emphasis that I have been blessed to receive love from my incredible family and friends. They are truly awesome people who I will always be indebted to in a way I can not express. When I eventually get my book finished it will be dedicated to each and every one of them.

But, my thoughts on love have been at the fore for very personal reasons. However, I can say what has happened is the hurt I experienced made me question my love of life in general and my love of myself. Not in a suicidal sort of way but just in a staring at the ground (a different sort of view from the ground), not looking at people, not seeing things sort of way. No, I’m not playing out poor me. But, I’m sure many people can understand what I mean.

I hope the above makes sense. Where you lose sight of the beauty that surrounds you. You lose sight because you’re not looking. You lose sight because you do become self absorbed in the situation for find yourself in. Whilst you soak in and appreciate the love that is being given by wonderful people, you lose sight because you stop loving yourself.

And that feeling of the loss of self love can become a downward spiral. I read a wonderful book last year by Dr David Hamilton about self love and it is a really good read. It’s back on my list of things to reference in the new year. In fact, why delay – I have the book here with me, and I will revisit the steps previously trodden.

There’s a great quote in the book from Elizabeth Gilbert; “Never forget that once upon a time, in an unguarded moment, you recognised yourself as a friend “.

And that quote sums up the journey that I and, I believe, many others need to tread. To get back to love, back to reality. That is, get back to seeing ourselves as a friend …………. to ourselves.

It is too easy to stop loving ourselves when someone hurts us; when they decide that they wish to spend their live without you. However, by not loving yourself, in reality, the only person you are hurting is yourself. So, it is important to grab that mirror and look yourself in the eyes and tell yourself you are a good person, you can move forward and you are lucky to be surrounded by wonderful person.

With that objective achieved it is important to lift our heads up and see the beauty of the world and recognise that the world is still as it was before the hurt occurred. It is still a blessing.

My point, I guess, is I am going through a journey (sorry, I hate the expression but can’t think of another), as are so many, but I am learning to get back to love – loving me, loving life, loving nature, loving the day, loving the future. I never stopped loving my family and friends. So, on that basis, I will become a friend of me as well and that way living myself should be easy.

As was going to apologise for rambling, but that’s me. I ramble a bit. But I love that about me. I also love that, as of yesterday, the days are getting longer (here in the northern hemisphere).

Right, I will close before I start loving typing too much.

I wish you good health, happiness, health and lots of self love.

Take care.

Jon

1 5 10

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“No one is useless in this world who lightens the burdens of another.”
― Charles Dickens

Wonderful words from one of history’s greatest writers. Welcome to my latest view from the ground.

I don’t know about you but, what a month November has been. The USA elect a new President. I’ll say no more on that subject. The population has spoken and time will tell. A bit like in the UK where the electorate have chosen to leave the European Union. Time will tell. In South Korea there are protests against the President. Time will tell how that develops. What a wonderful world. That’s not a negative observation. Just my personal reflection on current affairs. I’m certainly not being judgemental. Perish the thought!

However, I find it interesting when people say you’re being judgemental. So, I thought I’d have a look at the definition, and I found “Judgmental is a negative word to describe someone who often rushes to judgment without reason. The adjective judgmental describes someone who forms lots of opinions — usually harsh or critical ones — about lots of people. Judgmental types are not open-minded or easygoing.”

Here’s a question though – if someone accuses you of being judgemental and are therefore suggesting the that you not being open-minded, are they in turn being judgemental? Are they in fact not being open-minded in not accepting your right of expression? Please think about it.

I also hear / over hear the expression ‘unconditional love’. It seems like a buzz expression in certain circles. A bit like ‘blue sky thinking’ in the 90s. What is ‘unconditional love’?. Some will come up with wonderful words in support of such thinking. But they are just their opinions. So, in fact, by challenging this question are they being judgemental. Or, am I being judgemental by questioning ‘unconditional love’? Surely to love unconditionally is to love without condition. Not, on the condition that you agree with the other persons interpretation of unconditional love.

Alternatively, am I just trying to say we all have different interpretations of many things, so please don’t judge me. If we can agree on that, I love you. Unconditionally? Yes – on the condition that you agree with my judgement.

Anyway, moving on. It’s been a while still that last blog. I’ve reposted some previous blogs, as I felt their messages were important. Having read the opening of this blog, you must be wondering why you were lured to read this one. Sorry, those who have been with me for some time will know I like to wander off in different directions.

This brings me onto the title for this blog – ‘1 5 10’. I’ve been thinking – a lot – about what we as the masses can do to take hold of the negative changes in the world and start making positive inroads – a step at a time. Changes that we can make from our grounded position. Changes in our thinking. I’m not coming at this from a preachy, let’s heal the world sort of way. I’ll leave that to those handing out leaflets to commuters on the busy streets, or those who go on personal crusades, fuelled by ego.

No, I’m coming at this from the perspective of looking to our right or our left and seeing if the person right next to us is struggling and needed a hand or a few kind words. I’m talking about being there, in the moment, and being available to help our fellow human beings.

I still think of the Dalai Lama quote – If every 8 year old in the world is taught to meditate, we will eliminate violence from the world within one generation”.
What difference could we make to the community / the world by starting with a 1 percent shift in how we think; how we behave; how we treat each other? Clearly, teaching 8 year olds to meditate is next generational stuff, but why can’t schools do this? Think about it.

But, until then we all have a magnificent chance to make a difference. If tomorrow, you smiled at everyone you see. Accepting that there will be a small group of people who will think you are weird (definition – very strange and unusual, unexpected, or not natural), but the majority of people will walk away feeling a little bit happier. They in turn may then smile at people they see and, within minutes your act of happiness spreads throughout your community. That one act by you may cause a one percent shift in your community.

Now, those who know me will question when I last smiled at someone randomly. Well sceptics- a) stop judging me and give me unconditional love, because b) it was yesterday. Was she attractive? Well, okay, yes. Did I get her phone number? No! It was a random act because she looked down (and I don’t mean to avoid me looking at her). And, yes, she smiled in return. So, hopefully she felt a little better.

Joking apart, it’s all about taking progressive steps – start at a one percent shift, move to five percent (accepting that is a 500% increase in effort), and then step up to a ten percent short (and that is only a 200% increase).

It might sound fanciful – but think, in the next week you committed to just 2 acts of kindness a day – that could effect 14 people. If, through feeling good about your example, they then carried out 1 act of kindness a day the following week – that would be another 98 + your next 14 = 112 in week 2.

By the end of month 1 that could multiply to over 5,000 acts of kindness. And that is just from your own actions. If everyone who reads or shares this blog, that could mean …………… over 10,000. Okay, it could mean multiple thousand acts of kindness in just 1 month.

As the title suggests 1 to 5 to 10 and so on. I am a passionate believe that together we can be amazing. We need to be strong, resolute, and committed to making this planet better. But, this must, absolutely must, be together. In my humble opinion.

And, so, to close. Thank you for spending some time will me. I hope these words resonate with you. I wish you a happy and healthy rest of the day and beyond. If you need a hand, please let me know.
Jon

Depression. My view from the ground

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“You are allowed to feel messed up and inside out. It doesn’t mean you’re defective – it just means you’re human.” – David Mitchell

Another day, and I feel blessed that I have woken up. I am healthy and, as I type this sentence, I am fortunate to be lying in a warm house with my cat resting against me. A lucky man indeed.

I try not to publish blogs for the sake of putting words online. I also try not to be personal- other than talking about things in the world that I observe and want to share.

But at the moment, depression is something that worries me. We are know someone who, right now, is gripped my depression. I certainly do and it is my duty to help them through it. I won’t go into the detail of who it involves but it’s personal.

I read a comment from someone who’s view is that depression doesn’t really exist. It’s all in the mind and can be overcome by how we think. All I can say is wow!

Having being diagnosed with depression 12 years ago, had I had that comment made to me then any chance of recovery would have been severely damaged. Dangerous words.

I fully understand and agree that we are all entitled to our opinions. However, given that depression is a medically diagnosed illness I really want to understand the deep impact it has on the person suffering.

It is worrying that many still either don’t believe depression existing or that there are others that see it as a weakness. Yet, of later more and more celebrities and sports stars are stepping forward and revealing their suffering.

There are a lot of definitions or explanations around depression, so I have selected one that helped my understanding – “An illness that involves the body, mood, and thoughts and that affects the way a person eats, sleeps, feels about himself or herself, and thinks about things. Depression is not the same as a passing blue mood. It is not a sign of personal weakness or a condition that can be wished away. People with depression cannot merely ‘pull themselves together’ and get better. Without treatment, symptoms can last for weeks, months, or years. Appropriate treatment, however, can help most people with depression. The signs and symptoms of depression include loss of interest in activities that were once interesting or enjoyable, including sex; loss of appetite, with weight loss, or overeating, with weight gain; loss of emotional expression (flat affect); a persistently sad, anxious, or empty mood; feelings of hopelessness, pessimism, guilt, worthlessness, or helplessness; social withdrawal; unusual fatigue, low energy level, a feeling of being slowed down; sleep disturbance and insomnia, early-morning awakening or oversleeping; trouble concentrating, remembering, or making decisions; unusual restlessness or irritability; persistent physical problems such as headaches, digestive disorders, or chronic pain that do not respond to treatment, and thoughts of death or suicide or suicide attempts.”

Sorry if that is a long explanation but I think it captures a lot around what is a growing issue.

As I said above, I was diagnosed with depression 12 years ago. Before going to my doctor, I couldn’t work out what was wrong with me. Looking at the above, I can remember constant sadness and anxiety. But also anger and frustration. But perhaps the latter feelings were because I couldn’t work out what was wrong. I felt weak because I wasn’t coping with what I perceived was how life should be. However, one day, enough was enough, I went to the doctor, broke down and was diagnosed accordingly.

After that, I went through several months of coming to terms I was ill – yes, ill. My nearest and dearest at the time helped me to understand that my condition was an illness – not a weakness. I was convinced by her that the prescribed medication was essential to help me on my road to recovery. It was good advice and my chemical imbalance was balanced and eventually I could stop taking the medication. But, in reality, the depression never goes away. Like any deep seated illness, it remains. I’m just aware that it is there.

However, having had the illness helps me to understand that it is just that – an illness. So, why do some believe it is just a state of mind, and can be overcome through positive thinking? There is no doubt positive thinking can help you during your recovery. But, when depression takes hold, my belief is that you need professional help and, if prescribed through that professional help, medication to support the process of combating the illness.

I appreciate that there are the conspiracy theorists who believe that medication being prescribed is just filling the bank accounts of the pharmaceutical industry chiefs. That the media focus on depression being at epidemic levels, which sends us running to the nearest chemist for our medication. Why? Because they are all interlinked. Hell, I nearly bought into this. But, then, when i turned off the noise from the conspiracy theorists, I remembered ………. I was diagnosed with depression. It was diagnosed by a medical expert. I took medication to help fix my illness, and I’m glad I listened to the advice!

So, what’s the message? If you suffer from depression, please don’t hide. Please don’t be ashamed. Please don’t listen to the people who dare to suggest it’s all in your head. Please take about it. Please understand that you are not on your own. Please see that there is help. Please know that you can overcome it. Please keep the faith. Please. Xxx

To close, I’ve just heard “Love My Life” by Robbie Williams. Here’s the lyrics. I hope you can see why I thought they were appropriate.

“Tell your soul to me
I will never let go completely
One day our hands will be
Strong enough to hold me

I might not be there for all your battles
But you’ll win them eventually
I’ll pray that I’m giving you all that matters
So one day you’ll say to me

I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life

I am not my mistakes
And God knows I’ve made a few
I started to question the angels
And the answer they gave was you

I can not promise there won’t be sadness
I wish I could take it from you
But you’ll find the courage to face the madness
And see it because it’s true

I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life

Find the
Others
With hearts
Like yours
Run far
Run free
I’m with you

I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life
I am powerful
I am beautiful
I am free
I love my life
I am wonderful
I am magical
I am me
I love my life

And finally
I’m where I wanna be”
Take care.

 

 

Jon

One step beyond aka please don’t call it madness

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“It is not the the bruises on the body that hurt. It is the wounds of the heart and the scars on the mind.” ― Aisha Mirza.

Welcome to the latest view from the ground blog. If this is the first time you have visited my place here, seated under a beautiful tree, observing the world, thank you for joining me as I watch the madness ensue. But, I don’t want to call it madness as that’s quite a rude expression and it is important that we go one step beyond and find better descriptions for the way we view things and observe people.

As you read through, I apologise for any typos. I don’t have the luxury of a prof reader anymore so I wing it. Write and right from the heart. Don’t worry, when the book, ‘Round the bend or turning a corner?’, is published it will be proof read and probably rewritten. The original purpose of the book was to be a self help book for anyone who could feel a change happening in their lives but couldn’t quite understand what. The first publication will still follow that footprint. The second version may be more of a personal reflection. Watch this pace, but don’t call it madness.

I read that the World Mental Health Day is next week. I day to highlight a growing illness, but still an illness that many, too many, hide from due to a perceived idea that others see it as a weakness, not an illness .

In looking into things in advance of putting some words together for this blog I read a quote from David Levithan with interest: –

“I think the idea of a ‘mental health day’ is something completely invented by people who have no clue what it’s like to have bad mental health. The idea that your mind can be aired out in twenty-four hours is kind of like saying heart disease can be cured if you eat the right breakfast cereal. Mental health days only exist for people who have the luxury of saying ‘I don’t want to deal with things today’ and then can take the whole day off, while the rest of us are stuck fighting the fights we always fight, with no one really caring one way or another, unless we choose to bring a gun to school or ruin the morning announcements with a suicide.”

I was really interested in this view and can really see what David means. Those who suffer with mental illness are in that condition 24/7, it’s not a badge, it’s an illness. I know those who suffer from on mental health issues may see the World Mental Health Day as quite patronising. If that’s the case, it must be some difficult.

However, I personally see the World Mental Health Day as a really important chance for people to say that we care. But, and it’s another big but, we have to carry that care into the every other day of the year.

I see this year’s theme set by the World Federation for Mental Health is psychological first aid and the support people can provide to those in distress. This has to be taken up by every government in every country and action MUST be taken. Stop bitch fighting, stop dropping bombs, stop talking about building walls and start taking action to help cure this hidden but growing illness.

Here’s a revelation – 12 years ago I walked into se my doctor in tears and proclaimed I couldn’t cope any more. I wasn’t suicidal, that’s not what I’m saying. But, I was ill. I had a stress related illness and I needed help. It was the best thing I every did. I needed a bit of time away from my day to day routine and I was subscribed medication. At first, I didn’t want the medication but I was pursued to take it and over a period of time, things improved and here I am writing blogs.

I wouldn’t say I am completed cured. It’s always there and some things have happened that could trigger the condition again. But, the key things for me are 1) recognising it is an illness; 2) being honest to me and others; and 3) talking (and writing) about it. I am not ashamed, I am not embarrassed about it and if I can help others I will – 24/7.

For those who are told medication is bad and that you are falling into the hands of the pharmaceutical giants. Make your own decisions. Ask yourself, if it fixed the illness, why deprive yourself of the cure just because some say otherwise. I’ll stop at that to avoid insulting anyone, as we are all, of course, entitled to our own opinions.

So, I for one will be supporting the World Mental Health Day. But at the same time I will always be aware of David Levithan’s views. He has a strong point and we should all be supporting and highlighting mental health every day.

To conclude, and to refer back to the title of the blog – the next time you hear someone talk about mental health or if you see someone suffering, please don’t say ‘are they mad’. It’s an illness and to give it such a badge is cruel and hurtful. Please think about the words. Please go one step beyond and please don’t call it madness.

And to close. I’d like to end with a song. Ta Dah! But, this time it’s personal.

Following a significant change in my life recently, times have been / are quite tough. But, when I look a what is going on in the world – particularly in Haiti – what have I got to complain about? And, at some stage, I’ll finish the book, although it will have a different conclusion. Anyway, I just wanted to say, in the words of Green Day, I’m “still breathing”. Take care and enjoy every minute and don’t even think about what the next minute will bring.

“I’m like a child looking off in the horizon
I’m like an ambulance that’s turning on the sirens
Oh, I’m still alive
I’m like a soldier coming home for the first time
I dodged a bullet and I walked across a landmind
Oh, I’m still alive

Am I bleeding? Am I bleeding from the storm?
Just shine a line into the wreckage, so far away, away

Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way
Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way
My way to you

I’m like a junkie tying off for the last time
I’m like a loser that’s betting on his last dime
Oh, I’m still alive
I’m like a son that was raised without a father
I’m like a mother barely keeping it together
Oh, I’m still alive

Am I bleeding? Am I bleeding from the storm?
Just shine a line into the wreckage, so far away, away

Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way
Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way, my way…

As I walked out on the ledge
Are you scared to dance to live?
I been running all my life
Just to find a home that’s for the restless
And the truth that’s in the message
Making my way, away, away

Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way
Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way, my way…
Cause I’m still breathing
Cause I’m still breathing on my own
My head’s above the rain and roses
Making my way, my way
My way to you”
Jon

I don’t like you

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“It is remarkable by how much a pinch of malice enhances the penetrating power of an idea or an opinion. Our ears, it seems, are wonderfully attuned to sneers and evil reports about our fellow men.” – Eric Hoffer.

Hello and welcome. Join me here on my seat, as I take another view from the ground. And what a strange view it is at the moment. Really, I hear you ask. Thank you for asking. Let me explain. Are you sitting comfortably? Then, let me begin.

I’m never going to use my blogs to express any form of political opinion. Everyone is entitled to an opinion and I am not arrogant enough to try and impose my views in this forum.

However, politics is a key aspect of world news at the moment and the biggest show at the moment seems to be the USA presidential campaign.

I was intrigued last week to watch the TV debate Trump and Clinton. I’d be lying if I said I watched it in full. I have a life! But, intriguing the debate was. “Oh what a circus, oh what a show” – as the song goes. But those words, to me, ring true.

My hope that there would be some true sparring on really political points of interest were some extinguished. The show, the circus, all seemed to pivot around the importance of attacking your opponent rather than talking about what you are going to do to improve things.

In the U.K., we recently saw a similar situation when the Labour Party had a leadership campaign. It got to the point where they might as well have appeared in clown outfits on their TV debates. It was school yard insult throwing. What about the homeless? What about the unemployed? What about, what about, what about?

But watching Trump Vs Clinton just left me cold. Personal insult after personal insult. One of them will very soon be the chief of the most powerful nation in the world. Please note, I did not say in charge of the most powerful nation, as we all know that the money men are in charge. The president is a figurehead. Although, that said, it could be argued that one of the Presidential contestants is also a money man. But let’s not go there.

This all got me thinking and, as those who read my blogs will know, it is dangerous when I think. But, how many times do we hear debates and hear of situations where the focus is on negative observation – they might as well say ‘I don’t like you’ – rather than about what positive action can be taken.

And, there is the problem – in my humble opinion – leadership appears to revolve around criticism of your opposition rather than an ability to say ‘this is what I am going to do, this is the added value I am going to bring’.

I know I have quoted the song ‘Where is the love’ before, but the opening lines just keep coming to mind – “What’s wrong with the world, mama. People livin’ like they ain’t got no mamas. I think the whole world addicted to the drama. Only attracted to things that’ll bring you trauma”.

The focus from the top is negativism. That filters through and all of a sudden we are all at it – as it were. A collective I DON’T LIKE YOU. Absolute nonsense, if you don’t mind me saying.

In my last blog, Meditation Mayhem, I talked about ………. meditation. Imagine if the whole world meditated or practised mindfulness. Just think, what a beautiful world it would be. That said, and I don’t want to make any assumptions or pass any judgment (perish the thought), I am struggling to picture one of the USA presidential candidates zoning out in a beautiful state of meditative bliss. But, it is an amusing image.

I just wish we could all get into that space where we can concentrate on what difference we can make, rather than what is wrong. Picture the scene – your favourite, all singing all dancing, political leader standing up and stating what difference they are going to make rather than accusing their predecessors of all ills in the country, the world, Jupiter etc.

Move that down into what ever industry, working environment, you operate in. How many times do business leaders focus on what their competitors are doing, rather than saying what they are going to do.

You could almost then take that into any life situation. Let’s use the example of trying to attract a life partner (chat someone up). Do we spend too mischief energy focusing on what is wrong with someone we see as a competitor rather than saying how we can make the person we are trying to attract happy.

Just a thought. Rather than saying ‘I don’t like you’, just focus on ‘this is me, and this is what o can do to make your life / this company / this country / the world’ a whole lot better. And, if there is a competitor, let’s show some respect. Should we say ‘I like you’? I’ll let you decide.

I’d like to close with a few words from The Beatles: –

“There’s nothing you can do that can’t be done
Nothing you can sing that can’t be sung
Nothing you can say but you can learn how to play the game
It’s easy

Nothing you can make that can’t be made
No one you can save that can’t be saved
Nothing you can do but you can learn how to be you in time
It’s easy

All you need is love”

Beautiful words, and a beautiful sentiment. Let’s try it. Oh, and by the way, I do like you.

Take care.
Jon

Meditation mayhem

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“Meditation is all about the pursuit of nothingness. It’s like the ultimate rest. It’s better than the best sleep you’ve ever had. It’s a quieting of the mind. It sharpens everything, especially your appreciation of your surroundings. It keeps life fresh.” – Hugh Jackman

Well, come to my view from the ground. See that play on words? Don’t you just love the English language! Anyway, welcome to, well, come on in to my little place on this wonderful planet.

It’s been a few months now since the stand alone View From The Ground blog site was launched. I would like to thank everyone for joining me on my path through the chaos better known as life. I would be truly delighted if you could recommend the site to people who you know that might enjoy reading my rambling but heart felt words.

Anyway, onwards and word wards. Strange expression ‘words wards’. I don’t know if it is an expression but, given there should be no rules when creating words, I chose to designate it as an expression from this day on. In fact, I hereby crash a bottle of champagne against the expression ‘words wards’ and wish it well as it sets sail through this blog and onwards into the ocean of words.

Sorry, I’m rambling. So, meditation and mayhem – 2 words which you would not expect alongside each other. Let’s look at the definition of both before I expand on what is going through my mind as I form this blog.

Meditation is a nice easy definition – “the act of giving your attention to only one thing, either as a religious activity or as a way of becoming calm and relaxed”.

Mayhem becomes more interesting – “a situation in which there is little or no order or control”. To be fair, there were many definitions but this one feels quite ‘calm’ when compared to some.

Okay – the big question is, how am I going to link ‘calm and relaxed ‘ with ‘no order or control’? It’s a good question and, by the end of the blog, I hope I find the answer.

Meditation is still a great mystery to many and, as a result, there is a misconception that those who meditate are either hippies or weirdos. Wrong! I suspect may who read this blog so, to an extent, I am preaching to the converted.

However, I am looking to this blog as a request to all to spread the word. I remain worried / concerned at the state of the world. As a resident of the U.K. I am seriously worried. The number of people suffering from stress and depression continues to rise. And this rise is not confined to one age group – it’s right across all ages and all parts of society. So I am worried.

However, meditation undoubtedly offers a route to look for inner peace and relaxation and if more people just gave it a go, imagine the possibilities.

Anyone who has read the View From The Ground blogs since the started over 2 years ago will know that I been interested in the power of meditation for some time. Before I gave it a go though I was one of those who thought it was a practice confined to hippy tree huggers, who sat on the ground, crossed legs, chanted ‘omm omm omm’ – or a sound similar to that.

For 2 years I have meditated – not prescriptively but in a way when I need to ‘rest’ my mind and just zone, meditate is the answer. And this is the challenge that those of us who understand the power of meditation must take up. To talk to others who may be struggling with life – be it at work or in their personal life, and just advise on how meditation may help them.

But, then, their us the challenge someone may ask – ‘how do I meditate’. This is where the mayhem can creep in because, as we know, there are so many different methods of achieving a meditative state. And if you listen to everyone, it can feel like there’s no order and you’re out of control.
I found that you can look too deeply into the different ways to meditate – guided, to music, in silence, as a group, and so on. But, I believe, once we have opened up someone’s mind to the idea of meditation it is then you them to decide what form of meditation works best for them.

Nobody could or should tell you what is the best method and we should think about how we landed at the way we meditate. My preference? Guided meditation works for me. It helps maintain that focus on achieving the right state as it were. But, that might not be for everyone.

What we should do, though, is avoid creating that meditation mayhem. Let us guide those who might be helped by it to the power of meditation. But once they want to go for it, let them find what works best for them.

Am I making sense? I thought not. I think I need to meditate – omm, omm, omm.

I hope you enjoyed my last ramblings. I’ll finish with a quote and a song. I sound like a 70’s entertainment show.

The quote – “Consider how hard it is to change oneself and you will understand why it is so hard to change others.” One to think about and may be the subject of a future blog.

And, the song. It’s just one that has meaning and I hope you’ll look up the video on You Tube.

“One day it’s here and then it’s gone
How are you still holding on?
How are you still holding on?
You’ve felt this way for far too long
Waiting for a change to come
You know you’re not the only one
And life passes you by
Don’t be wasting your time
On your own
You always try to see yourself
Through the eyes of someone else
Through the eyes of someone else
Too shy to say that you need help
You and everybody else
You and everybody else
Oh, life passes you by
Don’t waste your time
On your own
Yeah life passes you by
Don’t be wasting your time
All alone
As your heart gets bigger
And you try to figure out
What’s it all about
And your skin gets thicker
As you try to figure out
What’s it all about
Yeah life passes you by
Don’t waste your time
On your own
One day it’s here and then it’s gone
How are you still holding on?
How are you still holding on?”

One Day – Kodaline

I’ll leave that with you. Enjoy life and live and love the day, because you never know what is round the corner. And if you’re feeling the pressure, meditation is a solution but watch out for the mayhem.

Until the next time.
Jon

 

True

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Never be afraid to raise your voice for honesty and truth and compassion against injustice and lying and greed. If people all over the world…would do this, it would change the earth.”
― William Faulkner

As ever, welcome to my view from the ground. A few weeks have passed since the last blog, and during that time I have sought to concentrate on living in the moment, enjoying every day, and focussing on what is good. Sometimes it’s not so easy to see the good when your view gets blurred by some not so good stuff but it’s important to keep that focus. I hope we all have that special something to focus on.

I have recently been reposting previous blogs, mainly in the hope of reaching out to people and to, hopefully, help like minded people realise they are not on their own.

I hope the last few weeks have been great for you and that, somewhere along the way, you have been able to help someone else achieve the same.

It’s been a bit of a summer here on the ground and the view has certainly been challenging. But clarity is slowly being restored. I was interested last week to receive a tweet about a new blog site – www.danielle29coffey.com. I hope Danielle doesn’t mind but I want to share a few words from her home page – “We are forever growing, forever learning and forever seeking. This is what it is to be human. I truly believe if we allow ourselves to be present and open on our own journeys we will enjoy the time we spend on them much more”.

I found these words inspiring. I would strongly recommend visiting Danielle’s blog site. Her story is very moving and there are aspects that I can relate to. The key message though is to be positive and focus on getting the most out of life, even in the face of adversity. I know this much is true.

Why do I find it hard to write the next line? Well, in reality there is such to say, it’s more a case of where to start. But, ultimately, I have been focussing on standing in my truth – a previous subject – but I’m coming at it from a different angle. Circumstances have dictated a stronger focus has been needed on standing true and having a firm vision of positivity. But, that said, there’s also being a massive realisation of just what love there is out there. I am truly blessed to be surrounded by such wonderful family and friends.

But, and it’s a big but (not posterior references please), I know so many people are going through truly difficult times and not everyone has the good fortune to have family and friends to take their hand and pull them up.

So, this is the thrust of the blog because we are all there to be available to those who need hat help. I accept not everyone speaks up when they are down. But there are so, so many people who are suffering in silence. However, that silence is only verbal silence. Think about people you know or people you seen regularly where you see a chance in behaviour or a change in body language or a change in just physical appearance.

How many times do we just not see this because we’re not looking? How many of these people just want one person to say ‘hey, how are you?’? But when we ask this question, to mean it and to wait for the answer. And when we get the answer, to listen. How many times when we ask a question are we thinking about something completely different when to answer is being delivered?

Just imagine how that feels to that person who is feeling down and actually just wants to open up, maybe to cry, and realise their story? That moment could be a life changing moment – be that good or bad. Good, because it could be a starting point for them to move forward. Bad, because they might walk away wondering what the point is. Just think about it. True?

So, I guess, my request is that we all take a step back. Those of us who are lucky enough to have awesome family and friends need to recognise our blessings but also be awake to the fact that many others aren’t that fortunate.

We all have a duty to support all others in need. We need to look, listen, really listen, and hold out a hand to anyone who needs help. We should step away from our own needs and acknowledge the needs of others, at that exact moment, might be greater. We need to be true to ourselves and be there – always for our fellow man or woman. Do you think you can do that?

I’m going to close with a song I’ve used before – Hold My Hand by Hootie And The Blowfish. Rather than quote the lyrics, I’ve included a link to the song. I think it’s awesome, I hope you do.

Take care, and please look out for that person who needs your help. You never know, it might be me. If it is, please hold my hand. If I see you and you need that hand, I promise you I will be there for you. True!

I always say drop me an email and I mean it – jonlduke@icloud.com. I’m also all over Facebook and have the View From The Ground Facebook and Twitter sites.
Jon