Love is. Love has. Love will. Love can. Love it. Love you. Love to love.
“The most spectacular, indescribable, deep euphoric feeling for someone. Love is an incredibly powerful word. … This love is unconditional affection with no limits or conditions: completely loving someone. It’s when you trust the other with your life and when you would do anything for each other.”
What is love? A question that has been posed many, many times but ultimately the answer is personal to us all. What is love to me will be different what love is to you. The core emotion, the feeling might be the same but the trigger for that feeling of love will be very different.
So, here we sit, staring at the locked down door, with an eye firmly fixed on the view from the ground.
As the song goes, love is all around us. From a personal perspective that is so true on the one hand, and so challenging on the other. As I’ve said previously, I’m am so blessed to have Liv at home with me. And we have Ringo and Zeekee with us, who are just awesome creatures.
But, I miss being able to see Aud so much. Yes, we FaceTime 3 times a day, but not having that physical presence is tough. I long for the day that we can be together again.
I miss Ben and Gaby. Yes, we talk everyday but, again, it’s the lack of physical togetherness that is tough.
I miss our friends. I miss my mum.
But, we all feel the same. And, I fully appreciate the relatively short period of time that we have been apart is nothing when compared to what some have to go through. And I know that there are so many who miss someone who they will never see again because of this virus. My heart goes out to them all.
During the lockdown I’ve learned so much about love. About true love. And about opening yourself up to appreciating everything you had and everything you have. And everything around us.
My relationship with Liv has always been strong but I’m proud at how, for me, it’s strengthened through the good and the not so good times.
The daily calls with Ben, and Gaby, have been wonderful and again just strengthened such a strong bond. After the lockdown Ben and Gaby are joining me and Liv at the #TeamDurky base and it’s going to be great fun.
As I’ve already said I miss Aud so much. We came together a bit later in life than a lot of couples do and we see this as a new beginning. Before we found each other, I was blessed with Ben and Liv, Aud was blessed with Eilidh and Liam. We have friends and family to bring into our collective new world together. We are so lucky.
I now know a deep love that can only come from the journey to where we are now. I’m grateful we have the chance to start our time together – well, that was 3 years ago – but our collection of life memories have helped propel us forward.
I love the life we have. Thank you to everyone who have helped us. I love the notion that we will soon be together again, physically – because we are never apart.
However, this relative isolation has helped unleash a love for nature. Those who are unfortunate enough to be connected with me on Facebook will probably be bored of my daily download of photos from my 6.30 morning walks with Ringo. The countless photos from the local park. The regular updates about my obsession with the swans on the lake. The stream of Ringo photos.
Sorry if I’m boring you. That’s not my motivation. Quite the opposite.
I’m overwhelmed by the beauty of nature that has always been there. Perhaps I’ve just been a little blind to it.
I’m trying to encourage us all to see that there is life outside the door for those of us who are lucky enough to get a daily dose of release.
I’m celebrating what life can really mean. There are things we can’t do, people we can’t see but there are opportunities to create something else whilst we wait to hold those that we miss.
I know in a previous blog I’ve already talked about the love of springtime. Of watching new life take hold. Magnificent.
I guess these last few weeks have been a unique opportunity to reflect, adjust, and then take a chance.
It won’t be long before we get chance to get out and get together.
But how much of what we have learned will stay with us? Will we just jump in the car to drive somewhere to then go for a walk or will we enjoy the walks that we discovered when that was the only option available? Will we drive to the supermarket on a whim for some flour or eggs when, during lockdown, we have walked to a local shop who has during lockdown has sourced those much sought after products when the supermarket couldn’t?
Will we accelerate into that crazy pace of life that existed before, or will we take a deep breath, look around, and just take in and enjoy what we have, rather than hurtling forward demanding more of what we don’t need.
My commitment is to use what I have learned over the last few weeks, which includes never taking anyone or anything for granted. I’m not saying I ever have, quite the opposite but, be warned those I see in the early days of post lockdown – Mr Not Tactile is shedding that name. Watch out.
I’m certainly going to continue to really celebrate this love of nature. The step count targets have been smashed so long may that continue.
Support your local businesses. They need you and, when we needed them, so many were there for us.
And, in the U.K., we are so lucky to have the NHS. Let’s not forget that – ever!
Let’s just remember, love is a powerful emotion. It’s the best one to have and it is all around us.